Google tells me that a "bridezilla" is "a woman whose behavior in planning her wedding is regarded as obsessive or intolerably demanding." Are there women who exhibit obsessive or demanding behaviors while planning a wedding? Sure. But I still hate the word and want to see it die.
I remember a conversation I had with one of my earliest brides that still stuns me to this day. Long before her wedding day, this bride knew that she cared about well-pressed table linens. As we sat enjoying coffee, I couldn't believe my ears when she said to me, "I hate to be a Bridezilla, but would you be able to bring a steamer to the wedding to make sure the table linens aren't wrinkled?"
The things that shocked me most about this particular conversation were that a) I had never heard one of my brides refer to herself as a bridezilla before and b) she felt the need to label herself as a bridezilla before communicating to her wedding planner a part of her wedding that mattered to her --- over a year prior to the wedding. This bride sadly exemplified the truth about this disgusting term: overuse and misapplication of the word "bridezilla" has caused many of today's brides to believe that any preference, any choice or any feeling they have relating to their wedding that is not shared or understood by everyone must be apologized for.
My thoughts for my bride (and brides everywhere)? Communicating what matters to you about your wedding day does not make you a bridezilla. The fact that your wedding day matters to you does not make you a bridezilla. Having conflict with your fiance or family member does not make you a bridezilla --- it happens when you have to manage multiple people's expectations about how a single day will go. So, let's stop the self-abuse and self-labeling --- knowing what you want from your wedding is not something you need to apologize for.
Obsessive and demanding people are just that ---- obsessive and demanding. So, do we really need to poison the waters in wedding world by giving those people a totally unnecessary and misused label? For the sake of the 99.999999999999999999% of brides that this term does not at all apply to, let's get rid of it. Who's with me?